In the daily, monthly, yearly grind of routine and more routine, it can be so easy to lose who you really are. Whether your routine is being a student, house wife/husband, home worker, looking for work, office worker, bar staff, cleaner, postman, dustbin man, mayor, civil servant, entrepreneur, entertainer etc, the challenge is to make sure the true you is not defined by these routines. It can be quite a roller coaster ride fighting back external attempts to pidgeon hole you into who you are perceived to be, rather than who you really are.
So who are you really and what defines you?
Are you the next Xfactor star? or do your talents or interests lay in helping those less fortunate achieve a little comfort in their lives? are you taking part in a theatre play either on stage or behind the scenes? maybe you coach five a side football to young and old?
So many activities can be fulfilled, yet these alone do not define you or outline who you are, but they do seperate you from the definitions of your routines.
A young actor once asked me, What do you do between jobs? I said, Hobbies, hobbies, and more hobbies.~ Robert Duvall
Lets say you become an Xfactor star, you were nice before, but now turn into a bit of a diva. You have made a choice to become a diva whether subconciously or consciously. Next example, you have taken gift packets of food and clothing to the local homeless shelter for the past year and half, you have gone the extra mile on occasion i.e. tutored reading and writing at the same shelter. You could choose to resent having to spend so much time with the homeless or you could make a choice to give your time without recourse for thanks or praise. Let’s say you’ve joined the local theatre company helping set up the stage and props, the director and management team rely on you to organise the behind the scenes activity, you could do half a job and grumble during your tasks or you could do the task in good style and grace.
The more you like yourself, the less you are like anyone else, which makes you unique. ~ Walt Disney
So who are you really and what actually defines you?
Identification of facts
Well there are schools of thought that would suggest that your choices are what define you, as above, or that you are defined by your religion, political leanings, hair styles(or not), shoes, glasses you wear, clothes, the car you drive, the house/location etc you live in, your social media activities, your hobbies, your lifestyle, your friends, colleagues, acquaintances, pets, social activities, tv programmes you watch etc. These are all good ways to identify what you like to do away from your routine tasks, but do they really define you or explain who you are?
If my dancing is a disaster – it doesn’t define me as a person.~Jennifer Grey
So the integrated elements of your experiences i.e what you had seen, what you felt, what you heard, smelt and thought, can provide the make-up of your current individual unique character i.e. moral, ethical, eccentric, crazy, funny, weird, stalwart, proud, silly, thoughtful, kind, angry, vicious, brilliant, introvert, extrovert etc and may go some way to explaining why you are who you are.
People grow through experience if they meet life honestly and courageously. This is how character is built. ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
But does your character help define you?
When living our lives we have many ‘thoughts’ about many things. We take action or non actions on these ‘thoughts’, based on how things affect our emotions(heart, soul & spirit) or psychology(Head).
It could possibly be stated that the variable of ‘thoughts’ actually have a good basis for defining you. For example, ‘thoughts’ that you may keep only to yourself for whatever reason may show your true definition and the only one that really knows your true definition is ‘You’.
The ‘You’ definition