Love – A Race, Creed, Religion, Culture Thing?
Due to the fact that the accepted norm is ‘Pain is love and love is pain’, I have looked at my own experiences in a visionary light and have learned that the entity encompassing love is people, people have an innate desire to shape the way they and their kin will be presented to the world at large, so from parenting to teaching they have an idea of what they see as the perfect upbringing, perfect schooling and perfect partnerships within their small communities sheltered away from outside involvement not realising that they are indeed creating the very thing they so despise which is ‘Prejudice against others’.
So in essence I can see why the accepted norm is ‘Pain is Love and Love is Pain’ because only if an individual is willing to work hard for what they desire then come hell or high water they will eventually achieve it even if it deems them as an anomaly or a sell out in the eyes of those too lazy to work hard and try for real inclusion rather than a reversion to seclusion, segregation of yester-year.
My personal experience highlights that Love is a mere word created by mankind to attempt to control and label feelings and emotions. The joining of individuals from differing backgrounds/beliefs/streets/country’s/cultures etc in platonic or marital unions causes fear in their respective families/groups/sects etc, this fear is based on the unknown or occurrences from past involvements with people of the said opposite culture, which leads onto an affirmed view that all people from that culture are of the predetermined ilk and will hence forth be a negative influence on their ‘own’ individual balance or status in the community.
This prejudging of an individual is then passed across all parties connected to them which creates a community of like minded ‘correct thining?’ people who are only preventing you from making a mistake because they ‘Love’ you. See there’s that word again ‘Love’, it’s interpretation is so flexible that people really do tie themselves up in it to such an extent that there is no difference between complete hatred and Love.
The well known saying ‘There’s a fine line between Love and Hate’ could never be more true, only I would modernise its content and state ‘Love and Hate’ are one
(I feel a Tao moment coming on: I love sitting on walls but hate the marks it leaves on the backs of legs, I love eating sweets but hate what they do to my teeth, your family love that you have found a partner but hate that they are of that culture etc)
Don’t get me wrong, as a young boy I once sat on a wall and it fell to the ground causing me to crack my head on the floor, but I haven’t singled out all walls as being dangerous and have sat on many after that. I have eaten a bad pizza and thrown up that evening or the following morning, but here I am today chomping on pizza. I have experienced wider cultures and seen the good and bad in everyone and most definitely mistakes have and will be made along my journey of self discovery(isn’t that how we learn and develop as inidividuals?).
Even with identical culture relationships there were ups and downs and in some quarters I always said ‘Well if slapping your other half’ is love then I don’t want any part of it’. I’d read news stories of husbands and wives from the same cultural backgrounds plotting to kill each other, actually killing one or the other, making one or the other seriously poorly through deceptive poisoning or mutilating one or the other. It has been a long time since seeing or reading about a mixed cultured relationship suffering such ills, maybe they know more about what true affections and emotions really mean and strive to make positive in roads to exist harmoniously.
If I had to throw in a definitive answer I would say love is not a culture thing i.e. religion, beliefs, cast etc, love is a living thing as animals and humans have demonstrated for many a year.